My life has been super busy and crazy lately. I found myself completely overwhelmed and needed to press a reset button. Last week I shared my thoughts with you on how I get my mojo back. Thank you all for reading and sharing my blog! Most of all thank you for your kind comments. You all know how to make a girl feel great. You also made me think – A LOT. You told me that I am a rock star! I was so taken aback. I don’t feel like a rock star. I’m not even sure I know what it means. The only thing I do know is that I have a vision for how I want my life to be and I realize that if I want that life, I must make it happen. I’m not a wisher, I’m a doer.
Everyone has visions of the type of life you’d like to lead. Unfortunately, we get caught in the trap of uncertainty and fear. We hear our inner voice tell us things like, “You can’t do that” and “Everyone will make fun of you if you share that dream.” We let our inner voice talk us out of lots of great things and kill our confidence. I call this inner voice a Glitch because it is something that should not be there and because the word rhymes with what I’d really like to call it! I think of the Glitch as the devil sitting on my shoulder whispering bad things into my ear. Sometimes I believe it and let it hold me back. Other times I call my Glitch out for being a liar and trying to bring me down. The more I can call out my Glitch, the more confident I am and can keep working towards the life I want.
Everyone has a Glitch, even rock stars! The people that we see going for their dreams and living confident lives have learned to recognize and control their inner voice. This takes a lot of practice but here are a few steps for getting started:
1. Articulate your dream. What life do you want to live? What do you want to achieve? Do not be afraid to write it down or talk about it to someone. To move forward and be successful you must know where it is you want to go.
2. Put the right picture in your head! Create a picture in your head of what your perfect life will look like. Better yet, create a vision board that you can look at any time you want. After you have created this beautiful picture, keep it there! Do not let the pictures of the things you think are holding you back creep in. This will slow you down.
3. Recognize your Glitch is your bad imaginary friend. As you articulate your dream and create the picture of what it will look like, your Glitch is going to lose its mind!! It will be talking so fast to you, you won’t be able to keep up. It helps if you picture your Glitch as a separate little being that lives outside of you. Your glitch can look any way you want. You can give it a name! It is easier to control your Glitch when you picture it as something outside of you. It might feel hokey at first but trust me. I have two Glitches – one male and one female – that I have named Fred and Doris. I hate Fred and Doris. They are complete liars and try to bring me down constantly! I give them the evil eye now when I hear them speak. I imagine turning my back on them, stepping on them, and laughing at them when I succeed at something they said I couldn’t do. It is very empowering and helps my confidence grow a great deal!
4. Put your Glitch on mute. When you start to feel scared or doubt yourself, it is important to recognize this is your Glitch talking to you. Become very good at noticing when the Glitch speaks. Your Glitch is all your fear and uncertainty wrapped up in a tiny, but powerful voice. Your Glitch is a liar. Your Glitch survives on your fear. Tell your Glitch to shut up! Put it on mute! You are not all the things it tells you. You are more capable than your Glitch wants you to believe.
As you let yourself dream and create a picture of what you’d love your life to be like, your Glitch is going to come at you full steam ahead. This usually results in feelings of being inadequate and helpless. We find it very hard to reach for our dreams because we think we can’t achieve them. It is very normal to be afraid of failure but the only true failure in life is not trying. Successful people don’t always do the right things, but they don’t let setbacks stop them. I have messed up a lot of things over my life and made tons of mistakes. If I let Fred and Doris have their way, they’d convince me that those mistakes will hold me back from ever having success. Instead, I put them on mute. This helps me to be a doer and not just a wisher. If that makes me a rock star, then I’ll take it.